Saturday, April 28, 2012

Can't my babies stay babies?

Doing my fears this month, in case you missed day one.

Day 25: Young Adults


Rate on the scary scale from 1-10: 5

People, I'm afraid of teenagers.

I actually spend a lot of my time with them. Most of my friends are 16, lol. They are just fine as my friends... even though they make me feel centuries old... but to think of me parenting a teenager? YIKES!

Especially teenage girls. I've got two boys so it's not as scary, but still.

I wish I could explain this fear of mine. Maybe it's cuz I worry about them and what kind of world they're growing up in. I'm not old... I mean, I was a teenager 5 years ago, lol, but a lot has changed in that short amount of time.

I'm also intimidated by them. Their attitudes and their strength and individuality. Don't know how I'll handle it when my boys grow up.

Hopefully they won't hate me when I have to be the bad guy. I guess that's what I'm afraid of most.

23 comments:

Kyra Lennon said...

Teenagers can be quite scary, I don't think you're alone in this fear! The good news is, they're not all bad and I'm sure your boys will turn out to be part of the good crowd! :D

Pk Hrezo said...

Yep I'm petrified of the teen years. And I do have a daughter and I know I gave my mom hell as a teen, so I am due back some ugly days for sure. *shakes head with a frown*
But hey we should have some expertise in the area since we once were teens ourselves, right? I just hope to get thru them without my kids hating me. lol

Cristina said...

they scare me too!!! they are just so raw!!! all. the. time.

Joshua said...

My 4-y.o. has been acting 14 since she was 3. It's exhausting.

JeffO said...

The good news is you grow into it with them, if that makes sense. I know what I mean, but I'm not sure I'm saying it right. The other good news is you have many years (though they go fast) to build the foundation for them. There are no guarantees, of course, but the work you do now will pay off in the future.

Martha said...

I made it through the teens with my daughter, have two teen boys now and I work at a high school - so yep, lots of teens around me too and yep, I'm scared too, lol!

Have a great weekend :)

Kela McClelland said...

My five year old acts like she's fifteen (all the door slamming and 'I hate yous, I hate my lifes') and my four year old acts fourteen (well, sometimes sixteen) it's exhausting and a bit terrifying. People are always saying...imagine when they really are teens and when they're pmsing at the same time...lol, be happy you have boys :p

This is definitely a valid fear. Hope you have a good weekend :)

ilima said...

It's interesting that you write for them, though. Your way to cope? :)

Rena said...

Oh man, and all I have to do is think of the shenanigans I got into as a teenager to be completely petrified of this time for mine. Yikes.

Donna K. Weaver said...

You've probably heard me say this before. The hardest about your kids getting older is how their view of you changes. You go from being the most fun, the most interesting, the most beautiful person in their life to being God stupidest creation. That's tough. They grow out of it. Mostly.

But when we struggled with our oldest son (he was 16), and my hubby wanted to play hardball, I had to remind hubby that we would all be spending many more years together where we would all be adults. I didn't want to ruin those years by not handling these years right.

Tara Tyler said...

ever hear the song Teenagers Scare the Livin ---- Outta Me, by my chemical romance? its actually a good one!

i know what you mean, girls are especially unpredictable! but ftmp teenagers are motivated by insecurity & put on tough exteriors while figuring out who they are. if you are positive and dont take their jabs to heart, you will both come out on top. (me high school teacher =)

Ruth said...

I have a 15 year old girl and things are good for the most part. Actually she is better than when she was 12.

Tasha Seegmiller said...

I teach teenagers for a living - love them. Most of the time. Greatest advice is to realize when they are exasperated about something, you were at that age too. And the worst thing then was to have someone mock your exasperation :)

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

That would be one of my fears. Probably yet another reason I didn't want kids.

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Marta Szemik said...

I share this fear with you all the way!

Suzi said...

How could anyone ever hate you?

I think little by little we get used to the changes. It's not as if you've got a five year old and all of a sudden they're fiften.

No worse. No better. Just different.

And if they do hate you, it won't last long and they'll thank you in the end. (Like when they're 30)

Melissa Bradley said...

Teens really are scary. My oldest nephew just turned 13 and went to his first girl-boy dance/party. I'm still shuddering.

Young@Heart said...

Why do you think dad has so much gray hair? And yes I have it too...but really you kids weren't that bad and life is sweeet now!

Jolene Perry said...

Hilarious.

I'm not worried about my daughter becoming a teenager, but I AM worried about my son...

Mostly driving.

Kelley Lynn said...

Oh my. Teenagers kinda intimidate me too. Even though I wasn't one too long ago either!

I spent 12 hours locked in a high school as my cousin's Relay for Life Chaperone. 3/4 of everyone there was taller than me. Not to mention they all walk with this swagger of, 'I'm awesome'.

Gosh I wish I had that swagger :)

Mary Aalgaard, Play off the Page said...

The thing is, they don't just jump from preschooler to teenager. You have years of growing and building a relationship. I've maintained that you establish bonds and build trust when they're small and can't get enough of you, because they'll eventually want to push you away and be their own person. I have teenage sons, and I know that they still need me to be there for them, to build up their esteem, and love them for who they are. You'll be a great mom at every stage.

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Mary Aalgaard, Play off the Page said...

The thing is, they don't just jump from preschooler to teenager. You have years of growing and building a relationship. I've maintained that you establish bonds and build trust when they're small and can't get enough of you, because they'll eventually want to push you away and be their own person. I have teenage sons, and I know that they still need me to be there for them, to build up their esteem, and love them for who they are. You'll be a great mom at every stage.

Play off the Page

 

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